Long term relationships are a mess, by their very nature, and none of us got the instruction manual. But relationships can be a beautiful mess, a source of trust, confidence, safety, emotional stability, and even transformation. A balance of challenge and support.
When we learn the hows and whys of the patterns beneath our relational behaviors. When we learn to repair the disconnections caused by our habitual, unconscious responses.
When we begin to break those old patterns, and learn to show up in a different way. We break out of power struggles and blame games.
The door opens up to contact, connection, relationship, and intimacy, by learning power-in-relationship, not power-over-relationship.
Through this process of making connection and repairing disconnection, we learn: Effective communication, inspiration, and persuasion. Setting boundaries and how to say no. Emotional regulation and social-emotional intelligence. Developing awareness, breaking habits, and creating change, and a deeper sense of self, trust and confidence, and better sex.
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And when we learn relationship skills with our partner or spouse, they span out to all our relationships in life – business, family, friends. The quality of life improves across the board.
I hear it all too frequently – time heals all wounds. This too will pass. While that may be true, how long do you want to keep sticking your head in the sand and waiting for things to get better, only to have the cycle repeat itself again. Break the cycle. Catalyze your development with a coach.
I know you can figure it out on your own, but a professional can guide you to lasting change, now. There’s a saying out there in the relationship game that when you are hurt in relationship, you can heal through relationship. In my experience, it takes skills and guidance to learn that. Act now and schedule a call with me. Don’t wait another day.
I have over a decade of experience as a relationship therapist, with relational training in a variety of methods such as PACT, EFT, Hakomi, and Gestalt. I’ve been married for over 25 years now and put the practice in my preaching on a daily basis. I’ve seen firsthand the benefits of a well developed, mature relationship in my own marriage and in that of dozens of my clients.
